In a recent national poll of women ages 18 to 65, 16% of those surveyed said they had been physically harmed by their current or past intimate partner. Nearly 37% of those women victimized by domestic violence said they felt its effects in the workplace.
So — how do you know if you might be in an abusive relationship?
Abusive relationships can be defined as a pattern of assaultive and coercive behavior between two people in an intimate relationship—including couples who are married or unmarried. Types of abuse can include physical, emotional, social, economic, sexual, and even spiritual. Here are some warning signs that a relationship could be abusive.
Does your partner:
- Insult you in public and private?
- Constantly check up on you?
- Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
- Put down your family and friends?
- Tell you jealousy is a sign of love?
- Shove you, slap you, or hit you?
- Blame you for the abuse?
- Limit where you go and what you do?
- Try to control your money?
- Destroy your belongings?
- Threaten you, your family or pets-or threaten to hurt himself/herself?
- Touch you or act in ways that scare you?
- Tell you your fears are not important?
- Make all the decisions?
Because of your intimate relationship, do you:
- Get to work late due to problems with your partner?
- Have to hide bruises from your boss or co-workers?
- Find yourself frequently absent from work due to problems in your intimate relationship?
- Frequently break appointments with friends or family?
- Make excuses for your partner's behavior?
- Tell your boss or co-workers not to mention certain things in front of your intimate partner?
- Have difficulty keeping a job?
- Find it hard to concentrate on your job duties?
- Worry about receiving harassing telephone calls, visits, or faxes at work?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Help is available 24 hours a day by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline telephone number at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). (Or call the Hotline's TTY number at 1-800-787-3224.)
What if you are concerned about your co-workers or employees? Companies across the United States have joined together to end partner violence through workplace education and awareness. If you would like information on addressing partner violence in your workplace, click here to find out how to join the Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence