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On Tuesday, October 5, 2010, the Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence, Radio Bloomington and other community organizations throughout Central Illinois are co-sponsoring "It's Time to Talk Day" to bring awareness to the important issue of domestic violence.  This year the theme is "It's Time to Talk: Dating Safety & Technology - Log On, Look Up, Speak Out."

Event topics will focus on the role technology now has in our dating relationships--for tweens and adults--including staying safe online, sexting, cyberstalking, and the legal issues surrounding these topics.

Local CAEPV members and community partners will participate in "It's Time to Talk Day" in the following ways:
    Local governments, universities & colleges will issue proclamations of "It's Time to Talk Day" and encourage citizens to take a moment to talk about domestic violence. 

    A news conference to announce "It's Time to Talk Day" will be held at 8:00AM on October 5 at Young Main Lounge in Illinois Wesleyan University's Memorial Center.  

    The Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence and the 11th Judicial Circuit Family Violence Coordinating Council are co-sponsoring a FREE conference at Young Main Lounge in Illinois Wesleyan University's Memorial Center. This conference, "Dating Safety & Technology - Log On, Look Up, Speak Outwill look at how various technologies play a role in our dating relationships--and what we can do to stay safe and keep our relationships healthy.

    Soroptimist of Bloomington-Normal is hosting a Lunch & Learn training for parents at Lancaster's Fine Dining in Downtown Bloomington. 
Other "It's Time to Talk Day" projects and events include:
  • Distributing educational materials in workplaces
  • Distributing domestic violence awareness brochures to clients
  • Holding seminars for employees 
  • Providing information to employees via the Internet and Intranet
  • Writing informational articles for employee newsletters
  • Working with local schools to share the message about safety and wellness
  • Providing Public Service Announcements and radio interviews on Radio Bloomington stations
  • AND MORE! 
CALENDAR of EVENTS  [ Download ]   
News Conference and Announcement of "It's Time to Talk Day"
All of the day's events work together to convey the message that each of us has a responsibility to discuss and learn about domestic violence.

WHEN:
  Tuesday, October 5, 2010 (8:00AM)
WHERE: Illinois Wesleyan University - Memorial Center's Young Main Lounge
104 E. University Avenue; Bloomington, IL
CONTACT:  Kim Wells, caepv@caepv.org, (309) 664-0667 
SPEAKERS:
  • Honorable Paul G. Lawrence - Chair, 11th Judicial Circuit, Illinois Family Violence Coordinating Council 
  • Bill Yoder - McLean County State's Attorney
  • Mike Sullivan - Deputy Chief, Investigations Division, Office of the Illinois Attorney General 
  • Molly Gomberg - President, ISU Student-Athlete Advisory Council, Redbird Swimming and Diving, Illinois State University Athletics
  • Keenan Wimbley - Member, ISU Student-Athlete Advisory Council, Redbird Football, Illinois State University Athletics
  • Jane Chamberlain - CEO and President, YWCA McLean County
  • Kim Wells - Executive Director, Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence

NEWS CONFERENCE AGENDA & PRESS PACKET  [ Download ]
CALENDAR of EVENTS  [ Download ]   

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Proclamations & Resolutions
FREE Event - 4th Annual 11th Judicial Circuit Illinois Family Violence Coordinating Council Conference - "Dating Safety & Technology - Log On, Look Up, Speak Out"  
    WHEN: Tuesday, October 5, 2010 (8:30 - 4:00PM)
    SPONSOR: 11th Judicial Circuit Illinois Family Violence Coordinating Council and the Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence
    WHERE: Illinois Wesleyan University - Memorial Center's Young Main Lounge;104 E. University Street; Bloomington, IL 
    COST: Free and open to the public, registration required 
    CONTACT:  Gardenia Harris, eleventhfvcc@gmail.com 

    REGISTRATION LINK
    (EventBrite external link) 
    AGENDA (Word Doc)
    IWU Map and Parking Info (PDF) 

    TOPICS:
    • the role technology has in our dating relationships...tweens through adults...
    • safe behaviors and healthy choices online and on social networking and dating websites
    • appropriate and respectful use of cell phones and texting
    • how do I define and recognize inappropriate use of technology?
    • what should I know about stalking and cyberstalking
    SPEAKERS:  
    • Michael Sullivan, Deputy Chief, Investigations Division, Office of the Illinois Attorney General
    • Sarah Migas, Internet Safety Specialist, High Tech Crimes Bureau, Office of the Illinois Attorney General
      • Presentation - Online Safety on Social Networking Sites [ Download ]
    • Jennifer Welch, Deputy Commissioner, Chicago Department of Family and Support Services
      • Presentation - Identifying and Responding to Stalking and Cyber Stalking [ Download ]
      • Handout - Illinois Orders  [ Download ]
      • Handout - Stalking Incident Log  [ Download ]
    PANELISTS:  
    • MODERATOR:  Kim Wells, Executive Director, Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence
    • Jane Foster, First Assistant State's Attorney, McLean County
    • Sharon Klingman, Crisis Interventionist, McLean County Child Advocacy Center
    • Sarah Migas, Internet Safety Specialist, High Tech Crimes Bureau, Office of the Illinois Attorney General
    • Michael Sullivan, Deputy Chief, Investigations Division, Office of the Illinois Attorney General
    • Jennifer Welch, Deputy Commissioner, Chicago Department of Family and Support Services
An Empty Place at the Table™ - Sponsored by the McLean County Domestic Violence Multidisciplinary Team
    An Empty Place at the Table™ is a visual reminder of the deadliness of domestic violence and is a catalyst for social change. On Tuesday, October 5th, in conjunction with Central Illinois' "It's Time to Talk Day" events, the McLean County Domestic Violence Multidisciplinary Team is sponsoring this exhibit in the Joselin Atrium of Illinois Wesleyan University's Memorial Center.

    WHEN: Tuesday, October 5, 2010 (8:00AM - 4:00PM)
    SPONSOR:  McLean County Domestic Violence Multidisciplinary Team
    WHERE: Joselin Atrium, Illinois Wesleyan University's Memorial Center
     
    *This exhibit will be held directly outside the Young Main Lounge where the 11th Judicial Circuit Family Violence Coordinating Council is holding the conference "Dating Safety & Technology - Log On, Look Up, Speak Out."    
      
    EXHIBIT BROCHURE  [ Download ]  

    The McLean County Domestic Violence Multidisciplinary Team includes:
    • McLean County Sheriff's Office
    • McLean County Adult Court Services
    • MCCA's Countering Domestic Violence Program/Neville House
    • McLean County State's Attorney's Office
    • Bloomington Police Department

    ABOUT:  McLean County Domestic Violence Multidisciplinary Team
    The Women's Resource Center is the owner of all right, title and interest in and to the Copyright of the film An Empty Place at the Table and Trademark of the exhibit An Empty Place at the Table™ representing the project (which includes but is not limited to the exhibit, photographs, graphics, posters, prints, postcards, note cards, and all representations in various formats or media) known as An Empty Place at the Table™ as created, copyrighted, and trademarked by Women's Resource Center, Inc. of Scranton, Pennsylvania.
Soroptimist Sponsored Lunch & Learn - "I'm Your Mother, Not Your Friend... Except on Facebook"
    This "Lunch & Learn" opportunity is designed for parents as an introduction to relationship violence and how it might be impacting their children, tweens and teens. Topics include recognizing the warning signs, discussing relationship violence with your children, identifying Internet and cell phone harassment, and more! WHEN: Tuesday, October 5, 2010 (Noon - 1:00PM, doors open at 11:30 AM)
     
    SPONSOR:  Soroptimist Club of Bloomington-Normal
    WHERE: Lancaster's Restaurant - 513 N. Main Street in Downtown Bloomington
    COST: Free to general public, but registration required.  Box lunch available for $10.00 and must be reserved in advance!
    CONTACT:  Karen Fleming, kmfleming1973@yahoo.com, (309) 454-2513

     SPEAKERS:
    • Master Sergeant Brian Wilham, Illinois State Police
    • Trooper Mindy Carroll, Illinois State Police
    • Erin Cluts, MSW, LCSW, Psychotherapist
      
    EVENT FLYER  [ Download ]
    MAP  [ Link
    ABOUT:  Soroptimist 
YWCA McLean County's Online Safety Pledge
    WHEN:  October 5, 2010
    SPONSORS:  YWCA McLean County
    WHERE:  This pledge will be launched internally at the YWCA McLean County with staff spreading the pledge via Facebook and text message. 

    PLEDGE:  
      I realize my virtual actions have real consequences, so...
      1. I promise to use technology responsibly so that I don't intentionally hurt you or anyone else
      2. I promise to honor your boundaries while emailing, texting and posting
      3. I promise to ask for your permission before posting photos or forwarding anything you send to me.
      4. I promise to be honest with you when communicating using technology
      5. I promise to email, text and post only positive and caring things about you rather than gossip.  
      6. I promise to remember that sometimes talking with you face to face is a whole lot better.
      PS:  You have my permission to forward this!

    PDF of PLEDGE  [ Download
    ABOUT:  YWCA McLean County & Stepping Stones
Purple Tie Initiative - Normal Police Department and Town of Normal
    WHEN:  October 5, 2010
    SPONSORS:  Normal Police Department and the Town of Normal
    WHERE:  Internally at the Normal Police Department and the Town of Normal

    OBJECTIVE: 
    October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and purple is the color that is used to raise awareness of domestic violence.  On October 5, 2010, the Town of Normal is asking employees to be part of the first ever "Purple Tie Initiative" and wear a purple tie (or an item of purple clothing) to support victims and survivors of domestic violence in our community and raise awareness that domestic violence is "everybody's business."  
The Clothesline Project and Anti-Violence Pledge at Illinois State University
    WHEN:  October 4 and 5, 2010
    SPONSORS:  FLAME (Feminist Led Activist Movement to Empower) and MARS (Male Ally Group of FLAME) - Illinois State University Registered Student Organizations
    WHERE:  Illinois State University campus

    OBJECTIVE: 
    The Clothesline Project addresses the issue of violence against women by providing a vehicle for the women to express their emotions by decorating a shirt. On October 4, 2010, The Clothesline Project will display created t-shirts and provide blank t-shirts for survivors to create should they choose. This event will also promote "It's Time to Talk Day" on Tuesday, October 5.  

    On October 5, MARS will collect anti-violence pledges on the ISU quad as part of "It's Time to Talk Day."
High School Outreach - YWCA McLean County Stepping Stones
    WHEN:  October 5, 2010
    SPONSORS:  YWCA Stepping Stones with Planned Parenthood's TAG program (Teen Awareness Group)
    WHERE:  Local schools, including Normal Community High School
Additional Domestic Violence Awareness Month Events
    COUNTRY Financial Shelter Kit Drive for CDV/Neville House
    WHEN:  September 27 - October 1, 2010 
    WHERE:  COUNTRY Financial corporate offices in Bloomington, IL
    DETAILS:  COUNTRY Financial is collecting the following items to donate to Neville House: 
    • used cell phones
    • gift cards - food, gas, phone minutes
    • baby monitors
    • non-perishable food
    • cleaning supplies
    • diapers 
    ABOUT:  COUNTRY Financial
    ABOUT:  MCCA Countering Domestic Violence/Neville House

    Illinois State University runs Crime Stoppers TV episode "Domestic Violence"
    WHEN:  October 1 - October 9, 2010 
    WHERE:  Illinois State University residence halls
    DETAILS:  ISU will continually run the Crime Stoppers TV episode, "Domestic Violence," in all ISU residence halls on Channel 78.
     
    CDV/Neville House Candlelight Vigil an "Evening of Healing & Hope"
    WHEN:  Tuesday, October 12, 2010, 6:00 - 7:30pm
    SPONSOR:  CDV/Neville House - a program of Mid Central Community Action, Inc. 
    WHERE:  Location provided at time of reservation
    DETAILS:  CDV/Neville House invites families directly affected by domestic violence to share in an "Evening of Healing & Hope"
    • Enjoy dinner (hot dogs, chips, cookies, drinks)
    • Decorate a t-shirt to share your story
    • Get inspired by Rev. McSwain's message
    • Let your voice be heard during "open mic"
    • Light a candle to remember victims and honor survivors of domestic violence
    COST:  All activities are free and all supplies will be provided!
    RSVP:  Adults & children welcome!  RSVP to (309) 828-8913 by October 8
    FLYER & DETAILS  [ Download
    ABOUT:   MCCA Countering Domestic Violence/Neville House

    Children's Home + Aid/The Butterfly Project - Public Awareness Opportunity
    WHEN:  Wednesday, October 13, 2010, 6:00 - 7:30pm
    TITLE:  Is it Safe to Come Out and Play: Young Children and Exposure to Violence
    SPONSOR:  Children's Home + Aid / The Butterfly Project - a Safe From the Start Program
    WHERE:  Children's Home + Aid, 403 S. State St., Bloomington, IL  61701
    DETAILS:  Participants will gain knowledge about:
    • What is childhood exposure to violence?
    • What are the behavioral signs and symptoms of childhood exposure to violence?
    • Why is it important to intervene with young children?
    • What can you do?
    COST:  Free
    RSVP:  Space is limited to 40 seats!  RSVP to (309) 834-5234.
    FLYER & DETAILS [ Download ]
    MAP [ Link ]
    ABOUT:  Children's Foundation of Children's Home + Aid

    State Farm Corporate Lunch & Learn for Employees
    WHEN:  Thursday, October 14, 2010,  TIME:  11:30am - 12:30pm
    TITLE:  Sexting, Facebook and Common Sense:  10 Things You Need to Know About Stalking/Cyberstalking
    SPONSOR:  State Farm Corporate
    WHERE:  Corporate C-130
    DETAILS:  Topics include information on the prevalence, lethality & impact of stalking; the use of technology to stalk; technology safety planning; and an overview of the Illinois stalking statute revised in January 2010. 
    INFO:  For more information, contact Patty Fann, Corporate Security.  

    "Taking Steps to End Domestic Violence" 5K Run / 1 mile Family Fun Walk
    WHEN:  Sunday, October 17, 2010 - Race starts at 2:00pm
    ORGANIZERS:   Mid Central Community Action's Countering Domestic Violence Program
    WHERE:  Tipton Park, Bloomington, IL
    DETAILS:  In memory of Duncan and Jack Leichtenberg and in honor of Duncan's 11th birthday, Mid Central Community Action's Countering Domestic Violence program invites you to take steps to end domestic violence.  

    COST: 
    • Ages 11 & under:  FREE in honor of Duncan's 11th birthday
    • Ages 12-17:           $15 pre-registered / $20 on event day
    • Ages 18-54:           $20 pre-registered / $25 on event day
    • Age 55+:                 $15 pre-registered / $20 on event day 
       
    REGISTRATION & CHECK-IN:  
    • Race day registration opens at 1:00pm
    • Check-in opens at 1:30pm
    • Race starts at 2:00pm with balloon launch 
       
    RSVP:  Register by Thursday, October 7th by mail or at www. MCCAinc.org to get your race t-shirt!  All participants will be required to sign a waiver at registration.  

    REGISTRATION LINK & DETAILS [ Download ]
    MAP [ Link ]
    ABOUT:  Mid Central Community Action Countering Domestic Violence Program 

    YWCA McLean County's "A Day of Healing" Workshop 
    WHEN:  Saturday, October 23, 2010, 9:00am - 3:00pm
    TITLE:  A Day of Healing workshop
    SPONSOR:  YWCA Stepping Stones Sexual Assault Program
    WHERE:  Calvary United Methodist Church, 1700 N. Towanda Avenue, Normal, IL 
    DETAILS:  This event is open to survivors of sexual assault and other trauma. Presentation topics will include:  
    • yoga
    • financial empowerment
    • journaling
    • healing strategies
    COST:  Free
    RSVP:  Please register by October 8 to (309) 662-0461
    FLYER & DETAILS [ Download ]
    MAP [ Link ]
    ABOUT:  YWCA Stepping Stones

    "Fashion for a Cause" hosted by Family Community Resource Center
    WHEN:  Saturday, October 30, 2010, 1:00pm
    SPONSOR:  Family Community Resource Center
    WHERE:  Eastland Mall
    DETAILS:  Come out for an afternoon of fall and winter fashions from select stores at Eastland Mall!  There will be raffles and door prizes from Subway, Applebee's, Four Seasons, Bergner's, Regis and other local merchants!  
    • Cosmetics -  Merle Norman
    • Hairstyling -  JC Penney Co. Inc. Hair Salon
    • Fashions - Bergner's, JC Penney, Sears, Old Navy, The Limited, Maurice's, The Gap
    FLYER & DETAILS  [ Download ]
    ABOUT:  Family Community Resource Center

    "Text Msg: sfty nds 4 2days tech" sponsored by Bloomington-Normal Soroptimist
    WHEN:  Saturday, October 16, 2010, 9:00 - 11:00am
    SPONSOR:  Bloomington-Normal Soroptimist
    WHERE:  Busey Bank, 2101 N. Veteran's Parkway, Bloomington
    PRESENTER:  Dakesa Pina, PhD, LMFT
    TOPICS:
    • The Bloomington-Normal Soroptimist are hosting this event to educate parents on dating safety in the age of technology, as well as,
    • tips for staying safe on social websites and etc.
    COST: Free, but seating is limited and registration is required.  
    RSVP to Karen Fleming, kmfleming1973@yahoo.com, (309) 454-2513
    FLYER & DETAILS [ Download ]
    ABOUT:  Soroptimist 

    YWCA McLean County's Week Without Violence Luncheon and Keynote Address
    WHEN:  Friday, October 29, 2010
    SPONSOR:  YWCA McLean County
    WHERE:  Second Presbyterian Church, 313 N. East Street, Bloomington
    PRESENTER:  Judith Valente, "Pursuing What Really Matters"
    COST: $17
    RSVP to Norene Ball, nball@ywcamclean.org, (309) 662-0461
    FLYER & DETAILS [ Download ]
    ABOUT:  YWCA McLean County
Topical Articles
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A Thin Line - MTV
MTV's A Thin Line campaign was developed to empower you to identify, respond to, and stop the spread of digital abuse in your life and amongst your peers. The campaign is built on the understanding that there's a "thin line" between what may begin as a harmless joke and something that could end up having a serious impact on you or someone else. We know no generation has ever had to deal with this, so we want to partner with you to help figure it out. On-air, online and on your cell, we hope to spark a conversation and deliver information that helps you draw your own digital line. 

ConnectSafely - Tech Parenting Group
ConnectSafely is for parents, teens, educators, advocates - everyone engaged in and interested in the impact of the social Web. ConnectSafely also has all kinds of social-media safety tips for teens and parents, the latest youth-tech news, and many other resources.

Family Online Safety Institute
The Family Online Safety Institute works to make the online world safer for kids and their families by identifying and promoting best practice, tools and methods in the field of online safety, that also respect free expression. FOSI does this through the development of public policy, technology, education and special events. 

Google's Family Safety Center
We know how important it is to protect and educate young people on using the Internet and want to provide all of our users with a safe experience.  When it comes to family safety, we aim to: (1) Provide parents and teachers with tools to help them choose what content their children see online, (2)offer tips and advice to families about how to stay safe online, (3) work closely with organizations such as charities, others in our industry and government bodies dedicated to protecting young people.

iLOOKBOTHWAYS - LOOKBOTHWAYS Inc.
This site is brought to for one purpose – to provide consumers of all ages the best information on internet safety, security, privacy and ethics available. LOOKBOTHWAYS Inc.’s mission is to make the Internet safer for all consumers. In addition to providing free web resources to consumers, LOOKBOTHWAYS Inc. specializes in understanding the Human Factor in Online Safety.  

Mass. Attorney General - Social Interaction Online
The Office of Massachusetts Attorney General Martha Coakley has compiled a list of resources and tips on Cyber Crime and Internet Safety.  The section titled Social Interaction Online contains information on social networking sites, chat rooms and instant messaging, blogging and online dating.

McAfee - The Secret Online Lives of Teens
Do you know what your kids are doing online—whether they are talking to strangers or putting their computers and themselves at risk? Chances are you know something about what your kids are doing on the Internet but not everything.

McAfee - Parent's Guide to Social Networking  
The purpose of this e-guide is to provide concerned parents like you with the knowledge to deal with challenges associated with social networking and community websites. Once you understand the basics, you’ll be better able to help your kids stay safe when they socialize online. 

McAfee - Internet Safety Plan for Your Family
You need an Internet safety plan for your family. As soon as family members become active online — and no matter what their age — it’s time to educate them about cyber safety. You should be aware that even if you do not have a computer at home, PCs are available almost everywhere — at schools, libraries, friends’ homes, and even in church basements. It’s important for everyone to know the basics about protecting themselves in cyberspace.

McAfee - Online Safety Pledge
This is a sample pledge that would be appropriate for kids.  Use this pledge as a sample that you could modify for rules and guidelines that your family agrees upon. 

Microsoft Online Safety - Security brochures and fact sheets 
These free, downloadable resources are designed to help you educate yourself and others about computer security, privacy, and online safety issues and to help you prevent problems and correct problems that do arise.  

NNEDV's Safety Net: Safe & Strategic Technology Project
The revolutionary tool of the Internet has helped victims and their children successfully flee violent batterers, stalkers and rapists. But what millions don't realize is the dangerous and potentially lethal sides of this same technology in the hands of abusers and perpetrators. NNEDV's Safety Net: Safe & Strategic Technology Project addresses how technology impacts the safety, privacy and accessibility rights of victims. The Safety Net Project educates victims, their advocates and the general public on ways to use technology strategically to help find safety and escape domestic violence, dating violence, sexual violence, stalking and abuse.

Safe Internet Alliance 
The Internet is too important in people’s daily lives and too integral to our economy to be the Wild West. To fulfill its promise, the Internet must be a place where people feel safe and secure. The Safe Internet Alliance™ is a broad private/public sector community committed to better protecting Internet users, especially children, teens and the elderly, from the real and worsening problem of Internet corruption, crime, and abuse.

Safety Net - American Academy of Pediatrics
For the most part, the Internet is a rewarding place for both kids and teens, but the potential risks to their privacy and personal safety are real.  Being aware of the risks and engaging with your children about safety are the most important things you can do to keep your family safer online. Safety Net has a list of links and resources specialize in keeping children and adolescents safer online. 

TheSafeSpace.org - a project of Break the Cycle  
Technology can come in handy when you want to stay in touch. But it can also be used by others to monitor your every move and control you. Learn about the abusive use of technology and how you can protect yourself. 

Washington State Attorney General - Socializing Online
The Internet provides rich opportunities for making new friends, finding romance, and sharing interests with others. This online socializing, just like its offline counterpart, can present some danger. When you first meet somebody offline you have visual clues as to their age, gender, and general demeanor. Online, you have to find new ways to assess social contacts, and you have to be cautious about how much you expose about yourself.

WiredSafety
WiredSafety, Is A 501(c)(3) Program and the largest online safety, education and help group in the world. We are a cyber-neighborhood watch and operate worldwide in cyberspace through our more than 9,000 volunteers worldwide.
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